Overcoming Bad Neighbours
Having a good relationship with your neighbours is important if you want a harmonious home life.
Even the most beautiful home in the most serene town can become a nightmare. While most of us will have disagreements with our neighbours at some point, these conflicts can be resolved.
In the worst cases, there might be no other option than to sell your property and make a clean break. But, before you take such drastic steps, let’s take a look at some instances and how they can be resolved.
Bad neighbours come in all different categories. Sometimes they’re just nasty people. More often than not, they don’t even know that their behaviour is unpleasant.
The racket makers: Here we are talking about screaming moms, fighting spouses, horn honkers and tire squealing drivers, loud music fanatics and late-night partiers.
The ‘property line’ fanatics: This is someone who trims boundary trees and then sends you the bill.
The slob: This is one of the “least favourite” bad neighbours to have. This is the neighbour that lets the grass grow and leaves trash cans out days after pickup.
The careless pet owner: From leaving their pet yelping all day to never cleaning their mess, the careless pet owner can be really frustrating.
The rest: Sometimes, you might find yourself living next door to unsavoury characters. Drunk dealers or perpetual drunks. Sometimes neighbours are just plain rude or have no interest in engaging in pleasantries.
While most of us will have disagreements with our neighbours at some point, these conflicts can be resolved.
Here is What You Can Do
Call ahead and pick a time to talk it out. Take a human approach and do it face-to-face. In many cases, the issue can be easily resolved if both neighbours just have an honest and respectful conversation about the issue – the operative word here being ‘respectful’.
In your best effort not to inadvertently cause your neighbour to want to continue being a nuisance, you should try to approach the matter without using any accusatory terms. Blaming them for causing you discomfort is the wrong way to go about this. The more understanding and reasonable you seem, the more likely your neighbour will be to help you resolve the issue.
Noise is probably the most common complaint and no, we aren’t just talking about people playing their music too loudly. Mowing your lawn before sunrise on a Sunday morning or practising your woodworking skills late on a Saturday night is going to eventually get on your neighbour’s nerves.
Perhaps the best way to look at noise is to ask yourself if you’d be happy if your neighbours made the same amount of noise at the same time of the day, week in and week out. If the answer is no, then it may be time to rethink the way you do things.
If trying to resolve the issue neighbour to neighbour fails, you may be forced to turn to the legal route. The reassuring thing is that, for the most part, the law tends to be on the side of the reasonable neighbour who just wants to live in peace.
Issues that can be dealt with at a local police station include boundary wall offences and noise complaints. In many cases, just one warning call or notice from a local police station is enough to set a neighbour straight. But, if they choose to ignore the warning, then you can request that your local authority issue them with a fine.
If you’ve exhausted all your options, you might eventually consider listing your property for sale. This is extreme, but, if it’s going to better your quality of life, it’s worth it.
If you find yourself in this situation or would like to do your very best to avoid these situations, then make sure to have an understanding with your neighbour.